Five Ways to Maximize Your Singleness

Your season of singleness is a unique one to be in. During this period, there are numerous things to invest your time and talents in. Here are five ways to maximize your single season and not waste it.

Recognize singleness is not a curse or punishment.

Not receiving an answered prayer when we want can be perceived as a delay. Although waiting seems like a punishment, it actually is not. Reprogram any negative beliefs by substituting them with positive ones. This creates a new reality for yourself. When you shift your perspective, you can recognize that singleness is an opportunity to equip you to handle what is already prepared for you. Healing can take place, burdens may be lifted, and unnecessary hurt would be avoided by not getting involved in a worthless relationship. Take a moment to thank the Lord for His grace. You are blessed in all things!

Romanticize your life.

Having a significant other is not a requirement to experience romance. Stop waiting for someone to take you out and treat you nice. You can spoil yourself! Self love begins within. Dedicate some time to romanticize your life by going on solo dates, dressing up more often, purchasing something from your wishlist, discovering a new hobby, taking vacations, or creating a playlist that you can replay as many times as you want unapologetically. I personally enjoy traveling by myself, trying new restaurants, buying flowers, and indulging in self care with my glam squad. However you decide to bring enchantment into your life, be sure to incorporate a little romance out of an abundance of love for yourself.

Live out your purpose.

Purpose is not defined by your relationship status. It was preordained while you were in your mother’s womb. Don’t allow marriage to become an idol that overshadows your identity. Your significance comes from the Lord.

Sometimes people overlook the amount of freedom they have during their single season. This is a special time to be fully devoted to the Lord without being distracted by a spouse or children. In addition to romancing my life, I operate in my purposes daily. Everyday I’m afforded opportunities to serve which brings me great fulfillment.

May your purpose be found in the Lord and not dictated by your relationship status.

Don't rush the process. Get out of your own way.

It's easy to take matters in your own hands when impatience becomes authoritative. Waiting on God gets even more difficult when comparison creeps in. The couples' pictures seen on social media stir up a covetous spirit. The comments about marriage and family from loved ones resound as the "biological clock" ticks louder. Don't allow external pressure to steer you away from the will of God. He has already predestined plans for our lives found in Jeremiah 29:11 and established our steps which is written in Proverbs 16:9.

It's the process that gets you to your promise, not Ciara’s prayer. Abide by the will of God.

When the desire for courtship is heightened, I pray that God gives me a heart of thanksgiving so that I would be content in where I am and also pray for patience to wait for Him to fulfill my heart's desires in HIS timing and not mine. “There is an appointed time for everything. And there is a time for every matter under heaven—” -Ecclesiastes 3:1

Seasons of waiting are designed to prepare you, stretch you, and get you ready for everything that's coming next. Let patience have its perfect work.

Don’t settle.

Don't settle for less than God's BEST in any area of your life. Firmly withstand the test of time without allowing it to tease your destiny. What He has planned and preserved is worth the wait. No settling is allowed!!

This prophetic word from Jekalyn Carr serves as a constant reminder to not settle.

Be single until you get exactly what you want and deserve. It exists.

Singleness is not a bad thing regardless of how much time has passed or how negatively society tries to define it. Don’t be desperate or idle. I pray this blog has enlightened you on how to make the most of such a precious era.

Written with grace,

Kiala

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Have you accepted Jesus Christ as your personal Savior? If not, say this prayer:

Dear Lord Jesus,

Come into my life. I accept You as my Lord and personal Savior. I believe in my heart that You died and rose from the dead to save me. Thank You, Lord, for saving me in Jesus' name. Amen.

If you prayed this prayer, then congratulations! All of your sins are now forgiven and you have been born again. Heaven is rejoicing!